Inlaws coming tomorrow... Need help with gross Brother in-law

[LowBuckX]

How do I keep my brother inlaw from do gross things with out making a scene.. Small list of his infractions.

1) I made a batch of homemade BBQ sauce to which he stuck his big dirty finger into 3 knuckles deep to taste it. (I dumped it all out and made them all eat open pit)

2) I had a fresh bottle of rum on my fridge that he opened and tipped it up and back washed in it...

3) Did ^same with a bottle of Stoli Vanil

4) farted on my 18 month old... (we had words)

5) on thanksgiving he put his hands on top or the green been caserol and took a handfull of the fried onions off and ate them. Also dipped his fingers in a coconut cream pie then did not even take the slice he fingered.

6) helps himself to anything in fridge. Which is what scares me for tomorrow because my wifes parents and brother are coming tomorrow morrning and my parents and brother are coming for dinner so there will be alot of food in fridge..


He is a 6foot6inch 500 pound(that he admits too) oaf and was not raised that way. And his hog wife is pregnant and still smokes... (not in my house)


Now how to stop with out causeing ripples...

[Z06killinSBF]

Wow...... ummm do you have a Motel 6 near by?

[LowBuckX]

Wow...... ummm do you have a Motel 6 near by?

For me or him.

[Vegas69]

Ya....don't invite them next year.

[monza]

lol sorry and good luck....

[megaladon6]

well if theres a swamp handy.....

[NovaPwr]

heheheh....I have no answers but can't wait to read how it all turns out! Merry Christmas ; )

[Young Gun]

tell him sorry but if he does not change his actions then he is no longer welcome in your house. tell him you dont want an adult acting in the same manner that he is around you child because you dont want to have your child look at that and see that it is ok to act in that manner.

[absintheisfun]

Misery loves company???

My In-Laws came over last weekend for our Christmas--

Very drunk...VERY VERY DRUNK they both became

Mother in law--Talked nasty about her son (he wasn't even there to defend himself)
Smoked in my house, and denied it!--this really pissed me off
Fed my dogs from the table (after I repeatedly asked her not too because they would get sick on our carpet)
Spilled beer and wine on the carpet we had cleaned two days ago.

Truth be told, when I'm getting trashed (drunk), they are a blast to be around...when I'm sober, they are about the most annoying thing in the world! Well, I take that back. My Father in Law is a really good guy (drunk and sober)...My Mother in Law is not.

My advice: Get the slobs mother on your side. I don't know of anyone who will cross their own Mom.

[bucks69]

tell him sorry but if he does not change his actions then he is no longer welcome in your house. tell him you dont want an adult acting in the same manner that he is around you child because you dont want to have your child look at that and see that it is ok to act in that manner.

What He said ^^^^
Old enough to have a kid, old enough to not act like one..
Good luck and dont let him ruin Christmas for you and your family...

[68Formula]

That is disgusting. My six year old has better manners. Well, helps that she doesn't drink Bacardi.

Talk to your wife. Ask her to discuss it seriously with him. If she doesn't agree or doesn't do it strong enough, then tell him how you feel about these actions in a calm manner (no raised voice, no degrading statements, exaggerations, comparisons to animals, or name calling - just factual statements about what he did, and that it is inappropriate).

And as someone said, if "mommy" is there talk to her about it as well. I'm sure if someone mentions these things she would be embarrased at his actions and take care of it. I know I would be.

If it doesn't work, the wife can visit him next year for Christmas Eve without you or the kids. (Knowing what he does at your house infront of you, I wouldn't touch a bite at his.)

[Chad-1stGen]

wow I thought a scene like that only happened in the movies...

The scene I would be making would be inadvance and not inviting the person in the first place.

[70LS1NOVA]

give me (or someone) his email address: we'll send him a link to this post and maybe he'll get the point. If he doesn't take the hint, don't invite him back next year.

[jilge71]

give him a list of things you need him to do and keep him busy up untill its time to eat...send them all to the movies or something. even if you have to pay its a small price my friend.. try to slide by this year then just dont invite him back

[Dookie]

Jesus, that sux , i thought my inlaws were a pain in the ass . I have tried aimlesslessly to come up with a way to confront them with my problems , in a matter to not offend anyone , or let it blow up in my face . Because no matter what blood is thicker than water and i know it will somehow end up being my fault .
YOur story is one of the worst that ive heard , and there is no way i could bite my tongue , i would literaly explode .
Maybe you could find a way to confront him , and tell him that in no way are you trying to degrade him , but you are no longer going to accept his disgusting hygeine , or lack of .
THere is nothing worse that feeling like a prisoner in your own home.Something that i have learned is the more you bite your tounge and take it , the more they take advantage of it .

[WS6]

Damn LowBuck I feel for you man. I can't offer any advice as I would blow up like Dookie would on the person. I just do not put up with that crap. I do not accept any fault for telling the person straight up to get the hell out. He's old enough to know better and therefore does not need to be disciplined like some child learning the way the world works for the first time. Listen to the guys that are taking the calmer more civilized approached. Those plans sound pretty good to me. lol

Good luck and Merry Christmas.

[CarlC]

Send him this link!

Seriously, he needs to be set straight. Both you and your wife need to be on a unified front. It's not fair to dump this all on her our you. If you don't have a united front then the oaf will go to the other person, cry foul, and then it's a fight between you and your wife.

If he starts his antics, tell him politely to leave. My wife and I had to do this to her drunk uncle. Not easy, but in the end you will feel better that you did the right thing.

[Bill Howell]

Why would you care if you caused "ripples"? Slob comes into your house, acts like a 5 year old, and you "CARE" what he thinks? Or anyone else in the family for that matter???
This is one reason I hate holidays, you have to put up with such crap that you would not put up with the rest of the year. Tell him to stay home if he can not act like a civilized human being.....PERIOD. If he wants to live like a pig with mrs. piggy, fine, stay home.
As you can see, I have little tolerance for those that don't help themselves.......

[6'9"Witha69]

I would have a foot up his a$$ in 2 seconds if someone did that in my house, of course I am accustomed to being the biggest guy most anywhere so I have an advantage.

Carl is dead on about making sure the wife is on the same page.

Bill, take no guff from no one! Just like my Grandpa taught me. Love it!!

[hoosiergta]

It's always the hardest to talk to the person instead of using back channels. Tell him personally you don't want to make him mad or hurt but ,you are just about to kill him and you know how to get rid of the body.OK I was just kidding about the last part,but do tell him he had better be on his best behavour ,list past offences .You really cannot throw him out it would ruin everyone else's time just let him know comming in it could be his last.