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Ash
09-15-2009, 08:11 AM
I know I haven't been a member here that long compared to a lot of you, but since I stumbled across this site a year ago (lurking for quite a bit), and after spending a good amount of time each day reading through all the threads, I feel apart of this community, and have amassed a sense of who you guys/gals are as people. It's pretty damn cool to see members consistently taking time out of their days to do a photo-chop, review a CAD design, spend hours hunting for a piece of info vital to another members build, or just giving general support and encouragement. I Just kinda felt the need to throw that out there before ranting on something so personal.

So the city I work for was offering a buy-out for any employee interested. The department I'm in, isn't in any danger of layoffs, and is actually expanding since the city picked up a new contract for another municipality. I've been a Emergency dispatcher for 3 years, make really decent money doing what I do, and am expecting at least a 25% pay-cut when I go. Now,most of you are probably wanting to slap me for even thinking of leaving a relatively secure seeming job in the volatile times were in. But I just can't do it anymore. Witnessing another employee, who was as devoted as they come, get the deck stacked on them, really demoralized me and put a bad taste in my mouth that can't be washed away. After that, the feeling that I had finally "found my calling" had totally disappeared. The job is extremely stressful as is (multitasking to a nutty degree that can only be described as organized chaos) without having to worry if the someone has your back if the proverbial **** hits the fan.

Most of my co-workers are in a really bad spot, even if they don't recognize it. They've extended their lifestyle to the cusp of their income. New cars, fancy toys, house remodels, and all the like things America is regretting at this point in our history. Now that their spouses are getting hours reduced or overtime cut, they're feeling the pinch. These co-workers are now utterly dependent on a income they can't duplicate anywhere else if they lost their jobs. One lapse of judgment, One second of being overwhelmed is all it takes in this field to get booted. Seeing this reality happen to that co-worker hit me pretty hard. I drive a 9 year old, rebuilt titled volvo, and have a pretty modest lifestyle for the money I make. I just cant picture and quite frankly, don't feel comfortable, with the idea of making any big life decisions such as a house or starting a family while at this job. I now realize I need to pick a field of study, go back to school, and finally get my degree. The deadline for committing to the buy-out was 10:00am yesterday morning.....and after wrestling with it all last week, up untill 09:55am Monday morning, I called and got my name on that list. I've got another job lined up that will afford me the schedule to return to college, and the severance package will carry me through until the company opens up the position in early November. It was a really tough decision, but I know I made the right one.

-Thanks for reading

2Bad4Ya
09-15-2009, 08:39 AM
I say the following with no judgement toward your decision.

"I just cant picture and quite frankly, don't feel comfortable, with the idea of making any big life decisions such as a house or starting a family while at this job."

I thought like that when I was younger. I waited until I had a solid career and confortable enough to support a family and still enjoy life before we had a child 2 yrs ago. In my eyes it was a great plan... and $$ it may be so.

However in those yrs holding off until I got "comfortable" I find my health is not what it used to be and I now have limited capability to play and enjoy the time I have left in my life with my child.

Do not take my statement as a sob story or seeking pity. I simply suggest you live life now instead of waiting for things to get comfortable in life later.

trapin
09-15-2009, 08:57 AM
Good luck to you. We all have to do what we love. Sounds like you made a well thought out decision.

David Pozzi
09-15-2009, 09:06 AM
Sounds like the right decision. In the end, you want to be able to look back on this day and feel you made the best decision for the long run. High stress and no job security is not how you want to live.
David

Ash
09-15-2009, 11:48 PM
Thanks guys, I really do appreciate your words of encouragement. You kind of feel a bit of isolation creep in when decisions like this are weighing on your shoulders. Though I am pretty confident about the choice I made, doubt sure does seem to creep up on you.


2Bad4Ya, I gather from your post, your a parent that's a little older than most. My parents waited till they were in their mid thirties to have my sister, and late thirties to have me. I can imagine, it's a very different dynamic compared to those parents of like aged children who are in their very early twenties. But if you don't mind me asking, and stop me if you do...looking back on earlier years, when most people end up having children, can you picture yourself being the same father you are today? being able to provide to the same level, or being present during all the milestones you have been? Not trying to be rhetorical in the least, but genuinely curious as to your thoughts.

TonyHuntimer
09-16-2009, 01:24 AM
Regret and doubt is only wasted energy that does nobody any good.

Once you make your choice, do the best you can and don't look back. I made a huge life changing decision to leave everything I had being comfortable going nowhere when I was 26. I quit my job, moved in with my aunt, left my going nowhere relationship, moved to another city and went back to school. I never got a degree, but I got enough education and training to make a whole new life with a future. 14 years later I'm not in a great financial position, but I have my great wife, an awesome writing job, and an awesome daily driver. All those things would not have been possible without making that drastic change in my life. No regrets. ...okay I do regret selling a Camaro many years ago, but that's a different level of regret. :)

Good luck. Make it worth it. That part is up to you.

Jim Nilsen
09-16-2009, 02:05 AM
One day you will feel you were wise for your years. An environment that has your comfort level at its worst is a trap for poor mental and physical health that leads to a life of disparity you never see until you leave it or it makes you sick in the head and your heart. I do believe you saw the writing on the wall that most never take head to. You will be more diverse and content when your thoughts have reached the goal you have set forth. Choosing to take the middle path instead of the cutting edge is what gives people a foundation that is much stronger for both themselves and the people you care about.

Goodluck with your new career and may you live long and prosper.

Andrew McBride
09-16-2009, 05:32 AM
It sounds like you are on the right track. What fields of study interest you?

I am finishing my degree in Industrial safety. You may check it out, there are a ton of jobs out there in this field. Goodluck man!

joemac
09-16-2009, 07:40 AM
I think more people should change their lives to suit what they believe in. I had worked for a company for seven years and one day they gave me an ultimatum and I walked. Best decision I ever made.

I recommend that you find a business to start instead of going back to school, just my personal opinion as I am not a fan of formal education, but a fan of self education. It doesn't take much to make a profit, there are a multitude of opportunities out there for someone with some ambition and a little courage.

andrewb70
09-16-2009, 08:00 AM
Consider yourself free and good luck in your future!

Andrew

2Bad4Ya
09-16-2009, 08:41 AM
"But if you don't mind me asking, and stop me if you do...looking back on earlier years, when most people end up having children, can you picture yourself being the same father you are today? being able to provide to the same level, or being present during all the milestones you have been? Not trying to be rhetorical in the least, but genuinely curious as to your thoughts."

Those are solid questions, no issue with answering them.

I would be a different father than I am today, but not less of a father simply due to health and economic factors.

No real way to answer without drawing out hypothetical situations.

I was just trying to relay the point that life is what happens while your making plans.

BA.
09-16-2009, 11:05 AM
Tough decisions man, tough decisions.

From your description, it sounds like you have a well laid out plan. Good luck with that future endeavors..

joemac
09-16-2009, 11:34 AM
A couple of thoughts. The same wind blows on everybody, the economic wind, the political wind the social wind. Where you end up on life is not the blowing of the wind but the set of your sail. Changing where you end up is not determined by what happens to you but by what you do about what happens. Jim Rohn said that.

Also life is not about doing something or getting something and being happy. Some people say if this happens then I will be happy. You have to be happy first then do those things. Happiness is the first thing you have to do to have a good life.

Last but not least, the most important thing in life is not a bank account, the most important thing in life is not a car or a house. It is living a good life, to live a good life you must be productive, to live a good life you must have good friends, don't be careless here they are the people that know all about you and still like you. And thirdly living a good life is about practicing what you believe in. Study practice and teach whatever you believe is right to other people. Also loosely paraphrased from Jim Rohn

This all sounds kind of mushy for a hot rod forum with a bunch of guys but these are important lessons everybody needs to realize. I am a much better and happier person after learning these philosophies. They have also allowed me to walk away from a dead end job where I wasn't appreciated to owning my own company that is doing well.