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Mark Antrim
08-26-2007, 06:01 AM
I got a phone call thursday night about a possible job offer that would require relocating. This is a dream job that i have always wanted. Now the problem, i have been working on my bodywork for the past two years and ready to paint this next weekend. A good friend has been helping and teaching me through this process. After we are done with mine his car is next. I really want the job but i also dont want to screw a very good friend. I also know that i probably will not get this job opportunity again. My friends please help me make a decision.

Mark Antrim
Boulder69
08-26-2007, 07:10 AM
If he is a very good friend he will understand. I would always prefer to regret something I did rather than something I didn't do. "What if" can tear you apart.
chet
08-26-2007, 08:18 AM
job first and how far away is it? maybe come back for weeekends?
vintageracer
08-26-2007, 08:19 AM
You have not moved yet? Good friends will understand and most importantly support your decision enthusiastically!

I would hope your "good friend" is more concerned at the loss of a great local buddy than the fact that you will not be able return the favor and help him with his car.

Take this great opportunity that has presented itself and do not look back!
Mark Antrim
08-26-2007, 10:15 AM
It would be 12-13 hours away so weekends would be out. He would understand but without his help my car would never have gotten this far. Its more of a problem i have than him being mad at me.
Damn True
08-26-2007, 10:47 AM
Taking the best care of yourself and your family is the most important thing you can do. If this guy is a REAL friend he will understand and support your decision. If not, better to find out sooner than later.
GetMore
08-26-2007, 11:45 AM
I think you should go for it and take the new job. 12-13 hours is far, but it's not that far. There will be holidays and vacation time, you could still get over there and help him out.

Besides, (and this is the big thing) you didn't plan on this happening. It's not like you were planning on leaving right after he finished helping you on your car, just to get out of helping him on his.
vanzuuk1
08-26-2007, 01:12 PM
This will probably upset everybody, but buy him a part or supplies towards his paint job. Use your judgement as to how much to spend.
BA.
08-26-2007, 01:28 PM
Good friends understand. A good friend would obviously never hold the dream job over a non-returned favor. Never.

I was thinking along the lines as Vanzuuk1 also. I'd get my buddy a tool or book or part or something that helps get the ball rolling on his rebuild.

It's normal to feel bad about not being able to repay the favor, maybe even a little guilty. Just do what you can to keep the friendship together and he'll understand that you're not bailin'.


If I were your buddy, I'd INSIST you take that job. It's your dream job!
vanzuuk1
08-26-2007, 02:30 PM
Two years of help. better be a nice book..
Scott Parkhurst
08-27-2007, 12:30 PM
Take job opportunities when they arise. It doesn't happen very often.

If your friend is a friend, he'll get it. If he's a really good friend, get him a job with you down the road.
6'9"Witha69
08-27-2007, 01:01 PM
If your friend is a friend, he'll get it. If he's a really good friend, get him a job with you down the road.AMEN!
BA.
08-27-2007, 02:52 PM
Two years of help. better be a nice book..

:)



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Steve1968LS2
08-27-2007, 03:17 PM
Taking the best care of yourself and your family is the most important thing you can do. If this guy is a REAL friend he will understand and support your decision. If not, better to find out sooner than later.

Exactly..
MonzaRacer
08-27-2007, 05:39 PM
I agree you should take the job, you could query about some time to tie up loose ends, maybe a few 3 day weekends to come back and help out, at your employers convience.
I switched jobs once and had itwrote up that I got a 3 day weekend every month till I had my loose ends tied up, much like the situation you are in.
Good luck.
NOT A TA
08-27-2007, 05:49 PM
Could you postpone starting the new position for a few weeks or a month? Then you could dedicate your normal workweek to working on his car even when he's not there. You could get a lot done with no interruptions.
Mark Antrim
08-29-2007, 05:42 PM
thanks everyone for their support. i talked to the owner tonight about the job and all the responsability that goes with it. now i need to make a decision.

thanks again,

Mark Antrim
Jake616
10-11-2009, 08:03 PM
Best of Luck!

You know deep down what's best, Follow that and you should be golden!
dadto2jays
10-12-2009, 09:12 AM
I am sure your friend will understand about the new dream job availability at this time, if he is your true friend he will definetly understand...
Motown 454
10-12-2009, 10:36 AM
I agree with you taking the job, just let your friend know as soon as you have made a discision. Good Luck
mc84_zz4
10-12-2009, 11:27 AM
I agree with the rest, your friend will undersand the dream-job does not come often, and you must jump on it.

As for the car, maybe you can schedule in a weekend (or more) where nothing but his car gets worked on.
Mark Antrim
10-12-2009, 06:44 PM
I fought long and hard on the decision, I didn't take the job at this time. I'm sure that if I wanted I could get the chance again. It is one of the only companies that I would move for but it would be draining and not a lot of time for my family. The owners are what I would consider friends and not sure that I want to mix friends with work. As far as my friend, he had to give up his project because of money problems.We did talk about the job prospect and he was cool with it. Thanks again for everyones opinion and we will see about that job in the future.